How to manage and overcome the loss of a child during pregnancy or shortly after giving birth.

In Italy there are more than 2000 children who die every year at the end of pregnancy and more than a thousand people who die soon after birth. pregnancy is almost always serene, without any particular problems, and in which routine exams have always been positive. Yet it happens often in disbelief of parents, relatives and friends, and especially one feels abandoned and displaced faced with an event that you just do not think. In this article we would like to give you some useful information on how to try to deal with this sad time. Perinatal Bereavement The concept of perinatal bereavement did not exist in the dictionary until 2006, because many health professionals in the first place, have always thought that, like all deaths, after a period of processing could be exceeded.

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Actually what happens, but in some cases it is a trauma that you are bringing all his life, to the detriment of the couple, the other children and serenity. Parenting is a journey that starts from the first moment when you discover the pregnancy it is an irreversible process and, once started, it is not possible for that parent regress to a state of psychic previous non-parenting. Losing a baby during pregnancy or childbirth means to abruptly stop this path of dreams, plans and fantasies. ‘s death breaks a physical link, but can not eliminate the psychic, so it is important to be able to mourn with the help of psychologists , doctors and psychotherapists. law Italian Italian law defines a stillborn child who has passed 28 weeks of gestation at delivery and in this case there is an obligation to register with the registrar and has all the rights that belong to any human being to be buried and have a funeral service.

Moreover, a law requiring an autopsy on all children, with the aim to investigate the presence of any malformations or genetic diseases. Childbirth From the sixteenth week, even in the case of dead fetus, we proceed with the induction of spontaneous delivery. This mode is preferred with respect to the C-section because there are better safeguards for the health of the mother, allowing a better physical and psychological recovery and faster. During labor it is very important that the woman may be in the company of a trusted person with whom to share this poignant experience in the best way possible. E ‘essential that the woman giving birth is glossy, just to be able to externalize their suffering, pain and disbelief. Sedation, partial or total, is generally not recommended because being awake at this stage helps to overcome and mourn in a better way.

Refer to the baby or not the decision to see whether or not the child was born dead after giving birth is a very personal . The main reasons why parents often reject the meeting with their son because experience fear, rejection, discomfort and sometimes anger because the small is no longer alive. At the time of diagnosis and birth you live an extreme confusion and a sense of unreality. Then, as the days go by, we become slowly bill and the pain emerges more clearly. If the parents just can not have a direct comparison with the child, it would be important that at least someone in the family to see him, so that mom Dad and tomorrow may ask how it was.